Romancing Your Soul Blog

Welcome to the Romancing Your Soul Blog. Enjoy articles on a variety of topics from Regina and her guests!

The Art of Bucket Filling by Reverend Britt Skarda

Are you a bucket filler?  Basically, those who are bucket fillers treat others well. Studies show that if we want our children to thrive physically, spiritually and emotionally, we must fill their buckets.  We must praise them, affirm them and encourage them on their journey toward full maturity.  Indeed, we must be about the business of filling the buckets of all people for the sake of building up.  Bucket filling has the power to transform.  Perhaps the most extraordinary example of this
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You Are That One Person

One day a man was walking along the beach, when he noticed a boy hurriedly picking up and gently throwing things into the ocean. Approaching the boy, he asked, “Young man, what are you doing?” The boy replied, “Throwing starfish back into the ocean. The surf is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back, they’ll die.” The man laughed to himself and said, “Don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds
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Say Thank You to Those Who Deserve Our Thanks

In addition to the occasional letter of compliant I spoke about last week, I write many thank you notes. I believe in supporting others as I want to be supported. So I recently sent letters thanking the four officers who bravely testified about their experience on January 6th. Dear Officer Hodges, When I lived in Birmingham, Alabama, in the late 1980s, I had a friend named Libby. She had a son. She seemed to be an ordinary person living an ordinary
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We Can Complain, Nicely

After a very hard five weeks in Little Rock taking care of mom I was exhausted. I boarded a flight in Little Rock bound for Dallas to catch a flight back home to Los Angeles. I was really disgusted by the dirtiness of the airplane from Little Rock to Dallas. And decided to write a letter to complain, nicely. I wrote directly to the President and CEO of American Airlines. Don’t know if he will get it but that did not
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Love Is Powerful to Heal

You may remember that my mother, at almost 97, fell on June 6th, broke her right arm, fractured her right hip, and then developed pneumonia. I rushed from Los Angeles to Little Rock and for the next 5 weeks took care of her day and night. I have never worked so hard in my life. And I have always worked hard.  But this was different on so many levels. The physical exhaustion was tremendous because I had to do everything for
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The Actions Behind “I Love You”

It is easy to say, “I love you.” It is more challenging to actually love because to give and receive love we give and receive positive behavior. Giving love is being kind, peaceful, loyal, and honest. We are faithful, compassionate, supportive, and patient. Receiving love we feel valued, heard, and appreciated. We feel nurtured and accepted. We feel love by others when we receive positive behavior. Someone knows we love them through receiving positive behavior. It is giving  and receiving positive
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The Power of Our Smile

Walking home from the gym I passed a very old man in a wheelchair who was sitting next to his care giver outside a local coffee shop.  As I walked by he said, “Hello, gorgeous!” I turned around and replied, “Well hello to you sweetheart.” “Come back over here and say that to my face,” the old man said smiling from ear to ear.  I stopped and said, “How are you today, sir?” “Just wonderful, and you?” “My day was great
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Setting Boundaries Brings Higher Awareness

Until a few years ago I had no clue what a troll is.  But in the past month or so about two dozen people have been banned from my Facebook page. Most likely their comments were not seen as the security filters are high or I quickly caught their comments. I am blessed that the majority of people choose to gather on the Romancing Your Soul Facebook page to share positivity, support, and messages of inspiration to grow ourselves into better,
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Being Honest about Being Dishonest

At one time I was about $30,000 in credit card debt. I shopped and mindlessly charged in what I now realize was a desperate and misguided attempt to fill the emotional holes in my heart. My home was filled with stuff and no matter how much I bought, my heart was still empty. I was so tired of feeling out of control, like a hamster going round and round on a wheel.   It was not easy to admit to myself how
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Let Go the Need to Be Proven Right

Through e-mail, I agreed to pick up and return my friend Katherine to the airport. Two weeks before her arrival, something came up that required me to change plans for transporting her back to the airport. Still through e-mail, I assured her I would find someone to give her a ride back. She arrived and I was there to greet her. After some time together, I confirmed I was unable to give her a ride back to the airport. The news
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Evaluate Rather Than Judge

One time my uncle’s car broke down on a sparsely populated stretch of two-lane highway. This happened long before cell phones, and he was stuck in the middle of nowhere. He had to depend on the off chance that someone would happen along. After a while he heard a soft buzzing that sounded like a swarm of bees heading in his direction. As the noise grew louder, he watched the horizon. Soon a group of motorcycle riders crested the hill. Even
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Stop, and Choose Wisely

It was a Friday afternoon. I was working as a college administrator and had just overheard a department secretary address a professor as Mr. X instead of Dr. X. The professor arrogantly reprimanded the secretary in front of me, and I fired back a snide comment in her defense. Immediately embarrassed about what I had just blurted out, I rationalized my behavior and hurried off to my office. When I returned home Sunday evening from a weekend getaway, I found a lengthy
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